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Thursday, July 17, 2025

Repost XIII: Divrei Torah About Bris and Some Halakhic Matters About Bris

All the Subjects appear in Font of this size, followed by links to a number of articles I've written on that subject. There are over a dozen categories here, so scroll down to find subjects of interest, and enjoy!!!


Audio Tutorials Page

quick classes on various Bris topics - links here will take you to YUTorah

Maimonides Part I and II 

Context Helps with response to those who are anti-circumcision, and who claim that Maimonides was as well (!). It is important to know what Maimonides actually wrote to counter those who use Maimonides for their agenda

Maimonides on Why We Circumcise, Part I

Maimonides On Why We Circumcise, Part II

Friday, July 11, 2025

Repost XI: Halakhic v Hashkafic Topics and Discussions

Defining What Are Halakhic Issues (actual Jewish law) v What Are Hashkafic Issues (approaches determined by a worldview, but not necessarily by Halakha)

An important follow up to the previous - addressing two particular points

TOC - Miscellaneous essays on a variety of subjects - A Table of Contents collection from a few years ago

Where shuls and rabbis could be either helpful or make the bris experience more challenging depending on standards they might want to set


Hashkafa Playing a Role in How we View Bris

What Bris Milah is All About

Thursday, July 10, 2025

Repost X: Describing Tools of the Trade + Additional Thoughts on Some of Them

Following in the theme of the last few posts, this is a review of much of what I've written about the different surgical instruments and otherwise that are used for Bris Milah in our time. Above the line of asterisks are links to descriptions of each item and how it is used. Below the asterisks are expansions on some of the items, which are more "discussed" in some "Hashkafic" arenas surrounding Bris Milah  Though deeper "Hashkafic Dives" will be presented in the next "Repost"

This is presented in the order each item would be used


GLOVES             

MARKER              

Friday, July 4, 2025

Repost IX: Taking Care of Baby Post-Bris, Immediate and Longer Term

 This is part of a series in which I am reposting older material in a more organized fashion. This post is strictly about monitoring how the circumcision heals, and some issues which may come up down the road, specifically in the weeks which follow the circumcision, and sometimes even months later if the baby becomes particular fat in the thighs. This is not discussing any other issues of baby care.

After the bris, when my job is done (there is no longer a bandage on and the baby isn't bleeding), the parents' job of taking care of the healing circumcision kicks in. In simple terms, it is recommended to keep the area lubricated in the initial days following circumcision, while also protecting the circumcision from the bacteria associated with stool (aka 'poop.')

The post-Bris care page is most helpful for the immediate attention the baby needs

Wednesday, June 25, 2025

Repost VIII: What Happens in the Bris (Stages of Circumcision)

 The Bris (technically, the Milah = Circumcision) has a few stages that a Mohel must follow in order to produce a "Kosher Bris" and, hopefully a nice circumcision as well.

We have already "reposted" the methods of circumcision (2nd link shared on that page)

The day of the bris, the baby should stop eating a small time before the moment of circumcision, to avoid the possibility of his spitting up and choking will crying. 

People stand when the baby is brought in to the room

This basically describes the ceremony that everyone sees

This is what circumcision looks like (in words, no photos, except of a banana)

Sunday, June 22, 2025

Repost VII: Timing and Delaying the Bris

Just about everyone knows that the Bris takes place on the 8th day of life. 

Not everyone knows that the first day of life counts as "Day 1," no matter what time of day it is, as long as it is before sunset. 

So, a baby born any time in the AM on Monday, until sunset on Monday, will have his bris the following Monday.  Born after sunset on Monday will have his bris the following Tuesday. (fill in any other day of the week for a similar equation... exception to follow)

Friday, June 20, 2025

Repost VI: Defining Terms of the Bris Ceremony

A little while back I wrote several mini articles defining some of the most common terms and phrases related to Bris.  This is different than the tools of the trade, which will be reposted soon.  

  • Bris (similar to Bris Milah)
  • Baal Bris
  • Metzitzah - This is a link to the Metzitzah page which covers this topic from top to bottom. The links which include videos are outdated as the videos have all been taken down from youtube (shock of shocks)


Wednesday, June 18, 2025

Repost V: Choosing Your Mohel

Mohels (religious ritual circumcisers) are trained in different ways, and may have different methods of circumcising and tending to the post-circ wound.

Training and experience lead to there being Different Kinds of Mohels


Here are good questions to ask a Mohel (further research required to find the answers YOU WANT TO HEAR)   [And a summary of links made much earlier in the history of this blog]


It is important to pick a mohel who is confident in what he does, but also humble about what he does (don't look for someone who calls himself "the most authentic"), and honest about being human (while aiming for perfection!)


This provided a bunch of links and concerns you ought to consider and even VOICE in your finding the mohel best fit for your family

Thursday, May 22, 2025

Repost IV: Preparing the Mind

In life, we often have dreams of what the "perfect" day will look like. The perfect wedding, the perfect vacation, the perfect Shabbos table, the perfect child, the perfect spouse. 

Reality tends to bite hard in most cases, as we discover that perfection is a lot harder to come by than we thought, hoped, and planned for.

And so it is with brisses. Whether the caterer forgets a detail, an important family member gets stuck in traffic, the mohel comes an hour late (something I work very hard to avoid doing, btw!), or even if the circumcision itself doesn't come out perfectly... we have to always hope and pray for the best, but prepare for imperfection to be the reality.

Friday, May 16, 2025

Repost III: Setting Up For the Bris

Just to make clear: This is not advice on how to set up the celebratory meal and/or buffet

The original post on this subject can be found here.

While the link above will suffice, just remember these few tips.

If there is a ceremony (as opposed to a very private affair), the bris should be in a prominent place in the room

There should be good lighting, so the mohel can see what he is doing!

Every mohel needs a table to lay out his supplies. It should be larger than a TV table. A card table or most folding tables are adequate.

There either need to be one or two chairs available - for the Chair of Elijah (Kisei Eliyahu). If the chairs available are barstool height, there should be some kind of stepstool available for the Sandak to put his legs so he can easily hold the baby. 

It is also very helpful for a private room to be designated or arranged (if in a venue outside of the home, where there is always a bedroom available) for the mohel to examine the baby beforehand and afterwards, particularly if he intends to check the bandage before leaving. 

Wednesday, May 14, 2025

Repost II: Planning the Bris Celebration Party (Budgeting tips as well)

You may or may not have been to a bris before. People have brisses in every kind of venue, from a synagogue to a JCC, a country club party room to a restaurant, a relative's (or friend's) house to the home of the baby.

Sometimes I joke that "I won't do a bris in a church" (even though I'm being serious, but it sounds funny).

There are a number of other celebrations that come with the birth of a boy - such as a Kiddush on Shabbos in Shul, a Shalom Zachar, or a Brit Yitzchak. Those are mentioned here

Now we will focus solely on the The Bris Itself 

The link above (two lines up) goes into detail, but here are a few things you'll want to consider.

How Elaborate? It's a matter of taste, size of guest list, and - of course - budget. 

Monday, May 12, 2025

Repost I: Planning in Advance

 Since this website is in blog form, unless people search for what they are looking for, some of the early blog posts don't get much attention - though that's where much of the important stuff is!

You can always go here for the most important info preparing you for the bris and the ceremony:

http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2015/01/the-basic-information-all-you-need-to.html

Over the coming weeks, I'll be posting things that have been written before, in a little bit more of an organized fashion, so newcomers can find things closer to the top of the blog roll.

FIRST TOPIC: PLANNING IN ADVANCE (this first appeared here, in the first blog post ever!):

It is edited from there to reflect things I've seen and experienced since this was first written. 

PLANNING AHEAD  <-- That link is to a similar discussion of this nature

 Sometimes it is helpful - BEFORE baby comes - to think things out, to decide who will do what once baby arrives. 

Purchases - Baby Supplies

     * Car Seat 

If you're going to have a hospital birth, you'll need a car seat for that ride home (with a home birth, you won't need one until you're ready to take the baby somewhere!). 

Sunday, May 11, 2025

Reposting Series - Table of Contents

I am starting a new series of blog posts that connect to many of my earlier writings on important subjects that have gotten lost in the blogosphere over the years.  The idea is for this to be a little more systematic, organized, and navigable for those looking for the most important and pressing information for your family's bris experience. 

Some of the information is expanded upon from earlier information. Sometimes just links to information originally posted here in the early years of this site (i.e. 2009-2013) are posted for your convenience, with minimal explanation.

  1. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/05/repost-i-planning-in-advance.html
  2. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/05/repost-ii-planning-bris-celebration.html
  3. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/05/repost-iii-setting-up-for-bris.html
  4. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/05/repost-iv-preparing-mind.html
  5. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/06/repost-v-choosing-your-mohel.html
  6. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/06/repost-vi-defining-terms-of-bris.html
  7. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/06/repost-vii-timing-and-delaying-bris.html
  8. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/06/repost-vii-what-happens-in-bris-stages.html
  9. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/07/repost-ix-taking-care-of-baby-post-bris.html
  10. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/07/repost-x-describing-tools-of-trade.html
  11. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/07/repost-xi-halakhic-v-hashkafic-topics.html
  12. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/07/repost-xii-bris-customs-for-brisses.html
  13. http://www.mohelinsouthflorida.com/2025/07/repost-xiii-divrei-torah-about-bris-and.html

Thursday, May 8, 2025

What's The Rush? On Having Baby and Caring For Him

Disclaimer: I am only a mohel. I am not in the "birthing business." I leave that to the OBs and the Midwives. I am also not a doctor - though I do specialize in circumcision and care for the post-op circumcision spot.

Many years ago, I wrote this in response to a recall on Children's Tylenol, addressing (in layman's terms) whether Tylenol for a cranky post-bris baby was a good idea.

I've also given a few tidbits that I've picked up over the years, which I wrote about here. There's a link there to another article I wrote on this topic as well. It's mostly "parenting suggestions" for parents to get the most out of the experience of caring for the baby post-bris, and even longer term, such as how to avoid diaper rashes, misshaped heads, the question of feeding baby on a schedule... etc

To the medicating question, however, I'll add... WHAT'S the rush to medicate? Is the bandage too tight? Is there a bandage at all? Has the baby been fed? Is he able to urinate? Does he have a clean diaper? See that he is comfortable! Most babies ARE consolable after the bris. Most babies are FINE after the bris, when clean, fed, held, etc. 

EVERY medical intervention has potential, unanticipated side effects.  EVERY ONE. Tread with much caution. Read labels. Never make hasty decisions. Research. Don’t take one person’s word or advice without seeking information from other sources. 

Here I'd like to offer another anecdotal piece of advice, and that is to choose your health provider very carefully. 

Tuesday, February 11, 2025

A lengthy discourse on the significance of a Bris Milah Celebratory Meal

 I don't have the time to translate this right now... and some of it goes off on tangents that include the language of a Ketubah. But here is a comment on the meal held over the arrival of Yisro to the Israelite encampment, and specifically to Moshe's tent, where a meal was held in his honor. Some are of the view that the celebration was over Yisro's circumcision, thus making the meal a Celebratory Bris Meal! The author is Rabbi Yochanan Luria in his Meshivas Nefesh.


משיבת נפש שמות פרק יח פסוק יב 

(יב) ויבא אהרן וכל זקני ישראל לאכל לחם עם חתן משה וכו'. ראוי לדרוש לנישואין, גם מקצת לדרוש ברית מילה, וכן דרשתי. פירש"י ומשה היכן היה [כו'] אלא היה עומד ומשמש לפניהם, גם פי' על לפני האלקים מכאן שהנהנה מהסעודה שת"ח מסובים בה כאילו נהנה מזיו השכינה. לפי זה המקרא מסורס והיה ראוי פי' זה אם באו אחרים לאכול עם אהרן והזקינים. (מראה) [ונראה] לי שבכאן בא יתרו להתגייר שנאמר עתה ידעתי וכו', אמרו רז"ל במס' (תענית) וכריתות ובסמ"ג בסי' קי"ו שבג' דברים נכנסו אבותינו לברית, במילה וטבילה וקרבן וכו'. נ"ל גר הבא להתגייר צריך ג' דברים הללו, ולמדנו כולם מזאת הפרשה, מילה זאת היא סעודה של מצוה ע"כ אמר שבאו לאכל לחם לפני האלקים, ואמר ויבא אהרן וכל זקני ישראל ולא הזכיר משה, להודיענו שבא לטבול על פי הדיינים כמו משפט, וא"כ משה היה פסול לדיין. והרצאת דמים אמר בפירש ויקח יתרו עולה וזבחים.

Monday, January 20, 2025

Birkat Hamazon for a Bris

 Sometimes there are no bentchers.  And sometimes the bentchers don’t have the Bris Milah additions. 

So here is a nice website that has ALL versions of Birkat Hamazon, As well as a special button to click for a Bris 

ברכתהמזון.com

Included below is the Ashkenazic version

Sunday, January 19, 2025

Give Thanks to God for He is Good

See here for the first installment of an article I wrote about THANKS for Bris Milah (you can continue clicking there for the 8 reasons offered)

Here is another idea on the subject: 

One of the features of the Bris Milah ceremony includes the recitation of the verse הודו לה' כי טוב כי לעולם חסדו, which is translated in the title above.  It seems strange to say this, since we hear a baby crying and can only imagine that he does not feel that what is going on is so good. 

Chizkuni on Parshas Shemos gives the following explanation for why we'd say הודו לה' כי טוב כי לעולם חסדו at a bris. In the context of baby Moshe being born, the Torah describes how he is seen to be GOOD ( טוב).  This is based on the Midrashic notion that he was born without a foreskin! in other words, he was born circumcised: כי טוב הוא -  נולד מהול. ולפי שכתוב בו כי טוב על שם שנולד מהול נהגו העם לומר הודו לה' כי טוב על המילה

We mention the idea that we are experiencing כי טוב after the baby has been circumcised, because that is the way Moshe is described in the Torah as soon as it was discovered that he was born circumcised. 

This makes this a blessing that the child is now on the same status as the baby who grew to become Moshe Rabbenu! That is indeed something that is very good, and worth celebrating - a celebration of incredible potential!


Another reference to giving thanks is cross-linked in this blog post: 


Thursday, January 16, 2025

The Changing Landscape

The new year on the secular calendar is an apt time to reflect on where we're at in the MOHELINSOUTHFLORIDA.COM world.

When I moved to Florida 16.5 years ago, there were a handful of mohels that were the "go-to" mohels in South Florida. One has moved to another state. Another has pulled back from being as busy for personal reasons. Another remains the most experienced "go-to" in some communities, but not the only "go-to." Others have increased their clientele and have become more prominent/known/busy. Still a couple of others are limited in their clientele to particular counties, or primarily service a more uniform style of families  

Since that time, a number of mohels have moved to South Florida - in particular in the last five years - and have changed the landscape a bit. I can't say if the birthrate has changed. That's for the census people and the statisticians to look into. But more mohels definitely means the work is being spread around more.

On a personal note I have always found the summer time to be the busiest time of year - especially with teachers planning babies at that time, and other people planning to enjoy their newborns in the slower times that summer brings.